Community Guidelines

The Scene, Intimate Connections
Last updated: April 2026

Welcome to The Scene

The Scene exists because our community deserves better. Better than being hidden. Better than being judged. Better than platforms that treat intimacy as something to be ashamed of.

These guidelines are how we protect that. They are not suggestions. This is how we operate.

Every person on this platform has agreed to these rules. If you are here, so have you.

What Makes The Scene Different

Most platforms treat kink and alternative intimacy as an afterthought or a liability. We built The Scene specifically for this community, and that means we hold ourselves to a higher standard.

Here is what that looks like:

• Education first. We do not just connect people, we help them learn. Our courses and quizzes exist to raise the bar for the entire community.
• Trust is earned, not assumed. The badge and certification system means you can see who has invested time in learning. It is not a guarantee, but it is a signal.
• Privacy is a right, not a feature. We know what is at stake if your identity is exposed. Every design decision reflects that.
• Consent is the foundation, not a disclaimer. It is baked into every feature, every interaction, every rule on this platform.
• Community over clout. This is not about follower counts or who can be the most provocative. It is about genuine connection between people who share something real.

1. Consent Is Mandatory

This is the first rule because it is the most important one.

• Ask before you act. Whether it is a message, a photo, a request, or a suggestion, consent comes first.
• Respect the answer. If someone says no, that is the end of the conversation on that topic.
• Silence is not consent. If someone has not clearly said yes, the answer is no.
• Consent is ongoing. It can be withdrawn at any time. Something someone agreed to before does not mean they agree to it now.
• Context matters. Consent given in a private conversation does not extend to sharing that conversation with others.

2. Respect Limits. Always.

• When someone states a boundary, you honour it. Full stop.
• Do not try to negotiate, persuade, or test stated limits.
• Do not belittle someone for their boundaries, experience level, or preferences.
• "Experienced" does not mean "no limits." Everyone has them. Everyone deserves to have them respected.
• If you are unsure where someone's limits are, ask. That is not weakness, that is competence.

3. No Outing. Ever.

This is sacred ground. Never reveal someone's kink identity, preferences, or participation on The Scene to anyone outside the platform.

• Do not share someone's profile with people who are not on the platform.
• Do not discuss another member's preferences or identity in outside spaces without their explicit consent.
• Do not screenshot profiles or conversations to share externally.
• Do not connect someone's Scene profile to their public identity without their permission.

4. Photo Rules

4.1 Profile Photos

• No nudity in profile photos. This is required by the Apple App Store and Google Play Store. It is a hard rule.
• Photos should represent you. Use a real photo of yourself (face not required, we understand the need for discretion).
• No stock photos, celebrities, or images of other people.

4.2 Photos of Others

• Never upload a photo that identifies another person without their explicit consent.
• If another person is visible in your photo, their face must be obscured or cropped out, unless they have given you permission and they are also a consenting adult.

4.3 Prohibited Photos

• No images involving minors in any context.
• No non-consensual imagery.
• No content that depicts illegal activity.

5. Messaging Etiquette

Good communication is the backbone of this community. Here is what we expect:

• Read profiles before messaging. Show people you have actually looked at who they are.
• Start conversations, not interrogations. Introductions and genuine interest go further than a list of demands.
• Respect response times. Not everyone is online all the time. Do not send multiple messages if someone has not replied.
• No means no in messages too. If someone is not interested in chatting, move on gracefully.
• No unsolicited explicit content. Do not send explicit photos or descriptions unless the other person has clearly expressed interest in receiving them.
• No copy-paste spam. Mass-sending the same message to dozens of people is low effort and it shows. Do better.

6. Event Behaviour

If The Scene hosts or facilitates community events (virtual or in-person):

• All the above rules apply in event settings.
• Follow any additional event-specific rules set by organisers.
• Consent must be obtained for every interaction, including conversation, physical proximity, and any form of contact.
• Intoxication does not excuse boundary violations.
• If you witness a boundary violation at an event, report it to event staff or through the app.
• Photography at events requires explicit consent from every person who would be identifiable in the image.

7. Badges and Certification Integrity

The Scene's badge and certification system is designed to build trust. It only works if people are honest.

• Only claim certifications you have actually earned through completing courses and passing quizzes within the app.
• Do not misrepresent your experience level, training, or qualifications.
• Badges indicate completion of educational content within The Scene. They are not professional credentials.
• If you see someone claiming a badge they have not earned, report it.
• Tampering with badge or certification data is a serious violation.

8. Prohibited Behaviour

Beyond the rules above, the following will result in action:

• Harassment: Repeated unwanted contact, threats, intimidation, or bullying.
• Discrimination: Targeting someone based on race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, disability, body type, or any other characteristic.
• Predatory behaviour: Targeting inexperienced members, using manipulation or coercion, or deliberately violating power dynamics without consent.
• Doxxing: Sharing someone's personal information (real name, address, workplace, etc.) without consent.
• Impersonation: Pretending to be someone else or creating fake profiles.
• Commercial exploitation: Using the platform for solicitation, advertising, or commercial activity without authorisation.
• Illegal activity: Any conduct that violates applicable laws.

9. Reporting

If you experience or witness a violation of these guidelines:

How to Report

1. Use the in-app reporting tool on any profile, message, or piece of content.
2. Provide as much detail as you can. Screenshots help.
3. Reports are confidential. We do not reveal who submitted a report.

What Happens Next

• We review every report. Every single one.
• We investigate the situation, which may include reviewing messages and activity.
• We take action based on the severity of the violation.
• We will notify you of the outcome where appropriate.

When to Report

• Someone violates your boundaries or consent.
• You see content that violates these guidelines.
• Someone is outing another member.
• You suspect someone is underage.
• You witness harassment or predatory behaviour.

Do not hesitate. Reporting is not "making drama", it is protecting the community.

10. Consequences

We take violations seriously. Actions are proportional to the severity and nature of the violation.

Warning

• First-time minor violations (e.g., a profile photo that breaks guidelines).
• You will be notified of the issue and asked to correct it.

Temporary Suspension

• Repeated minor violations after a warning.
• A single moderate violation (e.g., disrespectful messaging, pressuring someone past a stated boundary).
• Suspension length depends on the violation (typically 7 to 30 days).

Permanent Ban

Severe violations are met with immediate permanent removal. This includes:

• Any content involving minors.
• Non-consensual sharing of intimate images.
• Outing another member.
• Threats of violence or stalking.
• Repeated violations after suspension.
• Any conduct that poses a safety risk to other members.

Law Enforcement Referral

• Content involving minors and credible threats of violence will be reported to law enforcement.

Appeals

• If you believe action was taken against your account in error, you may appeal by contacting us at safety@thescenedatingapp.com.
• Appeals are reviewed by a different person than the one who made the original decision.

11. Our Commitment to You

In return for following these guidelines, here is what we commit to:

• We will investigate every report. No exceptions.
• We will act on violations. This is not a platform where bad behaviour goes unchecked.
• We will protect your privacy. Your identity and preferences are safe with us.
• We will keep improving. These guidelines will evolve as our community grows and gives us feedback.
• We will listen. If you have suggestions for how to make The Scene better, we want to hear them.

12. Final Word

The Scene exists because this community deserves a space built with care, intention, and respect. Every person here contributes to what this space becomes.

Be the reason someone feels safe. Be the reason someone learns something new. Be the reason someone finds genuine connection.

That is what The Scene is for.

Questions or concerns: safety@thescenedatingapp.com